Cheesecake Photos

Well, at least that's what I call them. They have been all over my Facebook feed recently and I can't tell you how tired I am of seeing them. Oh, I guess I should explain what I'm talking about. They are very close photo (selfies) of women with sultry looks and full cleavage invading most of the frame. They usually have a caption like, "Good Morning." or, "Happy Friday!" or, "Good Nite All...." What they should say is, "Look at me! I have tits!" or, "I'm desperate for attention so I'm posting this pic on a random group that isn't for dating." or,"Looking for the wrong kind of attention..." It is such a blatant cry for attention that I sometimes feel like messaging them to offer help. They have to be lacking something in their life that causes them to beg for attention this way? I feel like going all Dr. Ruth or even Dr. Phil on them by wanting to get down to the root of the reason why they feel the need to display their goodies to the world. And they aren't the only ones, men do it to but instead of cleave shots of their moobs in a very revealing top, they have their shirts off completely showing their six, and not even close to a six, packs. Why do they feel that people need to see that?

If it was a picture for a personals ad I would get it. If it was a picture for a dating site I would also understand but still be a little concerned about their judgement. The whole not buying a cow if you can get the milk for free saying comes to mind. But the fact that they are posting it in a group that has to do with a common interest baffles me. Or in a group about an upcoming event. Are they trying to guarantee that they will have someone interested in them at the event so that going isn't all for naught? Are they trying to draw attention to a possible website that they have that offers pictures of them even more scantly clad or not wearing anything? I doubt the last one because I know a couple of people who have those types of sites and I have NEVER seen them post a picture of themselves in a group that has nothing to do with their site. I think that it all boils down to attention seeking and exhibitionism. I assume that it either raises their self esteem or they get off on having their girls front and centre knowing that anyone can see them and might think they are sexy... 

Maybe I'm being a prude, but I always feel that there is a time and a place for the girls. When I go out I have been know to wear something that highlights my assets. I have worn Halloween costumes and club wear that show enough cleavage to make the San Andreas Fault jealous. Okay, I'm over selling it but it was quite a bit and I was surprised that I was so bold on a couple of occasions. But I would never think to take a picture of me, with the titties front and centre, with a come hither look on my face, that had the caption of "Happy Friday" on it. I could only imagine how happy of a Friday that might cause for some guy who took it upon himself to add it to his spank bank. *shudder* (shower to follow) Once it's out their for the world to see, there is no taking it back. This is also true about the opinion that one would make of me without even knowing me as a person first. That is where the negative attention would come from and could actually get to a scary point that I don't even want to imagine.

As I mentioned before, men do it too. Sometimes it is just a close up of their face with or without bedroom eyes. Other times it is a waist up, shirtless picture with oiled up abs. The other day I was "lucky" enough to see a crotch pick of a man in a white speedo with a very prominent erection. I was more disgusted than interested. I really didn't need to see that and I'm sure most others didn't either. A friend commented with "Seriously?" which was her way of asking what was wrong with him. He took it as interest instead and said, "Y ;)" Gross! I feel like I need a double shower this time. The exhibitionism and self promotion is getting so bad that I have had to remove myself from a couple of groups that have NOTHING to do with dating. I am on those groups for the reason that they were intended, to get information only. Nothing more.

There has to be a way to curtail this behaviour! Something like a cyber smack on the nose with a rolled up newspaper. There should be a function on Facebook that would allow us to drop those people along with their pictures in a personals group. Maybe we need some kind of multiple step program that can be offered to the exhibitionists. We need to have someone that will come in and go all Dr. Phil on them. There is obviously something in their head that is telling them that it would be a good self esteem boost to put a picture out their for the world to see. We need to get down to the root of this epidemic or else much like pictures of meals before they are eaten, our feeds are going to be bombarded with slefies of people before they leave the house, go to bed, eat a meal, take a shower, work out, watch TV, brush their teeth, gas up their car, the list goes on...

You too can help stop the "sexy" selfies!

XOXO
Lors :o)